The intersection of purpose and pleasure is a fascinating crossroad. And I’m trying to tip the balance towards the former.
My conversation with Mark Mears on A Productive Conversation (listen here) stirred a deeper dive into this realm. We often chase quick shots of pleasure, fleeting moments of joy that have the lifespan of a mayfly. But recently, I’ve found myself increasingly drawn towards simple, sustained pleasures, a direct outcome of my purpose-driven life.
When it comes to adopting that mindset it turns out I might be right on schedule.
According to this Psychology Today article, our happiness quotient in life significantly depends on whether we focus on purpose or pleasure. As we age, the scales subtly tip towards purpose. But why does this happen?
The Fleeting Nature of Pleasure
The bursts of pleasure we experience are fleeting, ephemeral, like fireworks that light up the sky for an instant and then fade into the dark. Purpose, on the other hand, offers a different kind of pleasure—a continuous, glowing ember that not only provides warmth but also lights the path ahead. It’s a deeper, richer experience that not only resonates within us but also creates ripples in the world around us.
We’re moving away from the concept of “doing things for the sake of doing them” towards a more rewarding ethos of “doing things that truly matter.” This is where purpose steps in—the ‘why’ that drives our actions, our decisions, and ultimately, our lives. It guides us through challenges and triumphs alike, giving meaning to our endeavors and infusing our days with a sense of fulfillment.
Yet, this doesn’t mean we forsake pleasure. Instead, it means we find pleasure in things that align with our purpose. It means we enjoy the journey as much as the destination. In my own experience, focusing more on purpose has opened up a new world of pleasures, simple yet profound. These are pleasures that aren’t fleeting but enduring—like the satisfaction of a job well done, the joy of meaningful connections, and the peace that comes from living in alignment with one’s values.
Embracing Purpose for Lasting Happiness
Purpose-driven pleasure doesn’t demand constant novelty or excitement. It finds joy in the ordinary, in the routines and rituals that make up our days. It’s the quiet contentment of knowing that our actions are in harmony with our deeper values and aspirations. This kind of pleasure is sustainable and enriching, providing a steady stream of satisfaction that enhances our overall well-being.
So I ask you: Where are you finding pleasure, and what purpose is driving you?
Reflect on the moments that bring you joy and consider how they align with your broader goals and values. Embrace the pleasures that resonate with your sense of purpose, and let them guide you towards a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
In the end, the intersection of purpose and pleasure isn’t a choice between one or the other. It’s about finding a balance where both can coexist and complement each other. It’s about creating a life where pleasure is not just about momentary highs but about sustained joy and satisfaction derived from living with purpose. By doing so, we can transform our daily experiences into a rich tapestry of meaning and happiness.
